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There is power in praying aloud, praying out loud with Scriptures is even MORE powerful although silent prayers may be more comfortable for you, you should try to give a voice to them when you can.


Beginning the Journey  


Lord, thank You for the wonderful plan You have for my life and that includes healing and restoration.  Help me to never settle for less than all You have for me.  Enable me to not lose heart if things happen more slowly than I would like. If my expectations are lower than Your will for me, I surrender them to You.  


I commit to walking step by step with you so that I can become all You created me to be.  Help me to lay the offense and sin of sexual violence committed against me at the foot of the cross. Please give me the strength to endure as I learn from the past and watch as You redeem it and bring good out of it. Guide my thoughts, words and actions so that I walk Your path of peace and love


Father, in Jesus name, I ask You to heal my wounded soul. You have started a good work in me and You are faithful to complete it. I have a great deal to learn and I ask You to teach me and help me face truth in every area in which my thinking is distorted and wrong. I commit my life entirely to You and choose to open my heart to You in every area of my past. 


Lord, restore my soul and break the chains of anxiety and panic that bind me. When worry, fear or anxiety threaten to overtake me, help me remember Your promises. Please touch my body and heal me physically, mentally and emotionally. 


Trauma has shaken me to the core of my being and I ask that you heal every emotional and spiritual wound left in my life with Your love. The enemy wanted to destroy me through these vile acts of assault, but he didn't win! Restore trust and the grace to believe in You and receive Your promises, and to learn to trust others who are trustworthy. Thank you for equipping me to begin a healing process to address the root issues which will bring me a clear sense of my identity as Your child.


I bind all hurt, pain, sickness, negative thinking, doubt, confusion and anything connected to past traumatic events that I have carried with me since childhood and that You did not create to be a part of my life. Please bring everything within me in agreement with Your original design and plan for me. I bring all traumatic experiences and memories to Calvary where You suffered and died for me. Thank you for healing me of the effects of sexual trauma as only You can do.  


I speak restoration, recovery, refreshment, peace, healing and wholeness over my life. Help me to relax, to be at peace and to focus my mind on You. Help me and strengthen me through the power of the Holy Spirit and empower me to have a Spirit filled personality. Thank You for making me whole, thank You for turning my sorrow into joy and my mourning into dancing. I receive my healing by faith in Jesus Name,  I will walk in newness of life in Jesus Name, Amen!  



Scripture References 


Jeremiah 6:14 You can't heal a wound by saying it's not there! 


Isaiah 54:17 (NLT) No weapon formed against me shall prosper.


Philippians 1:6 (NLT) And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Jesus Christ returns. 


John 10:10 (TLB) The thief's (Satan) purpose is to steal, kill and destroy. My purpose is to give life in all its fullness.   


Jeremiah 29:11 (TLB) For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. 


Romans 11:29 (NLT) For God's gifts and his call can never be withdrawn.  


John 15:16 (TLB) You didn’t choose me! I chose you!


Jeremiah 31:3 (TLB)  I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.


John 8:44 (NLT) Satan is the father of lies and there is no truth in him


Psalm 34:18 (NLT) The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.


Psalm 139:13-16 (TLB) You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit them together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! It is amazing to think about. Your workmanship is marvelous—and how well I know it. You were there while I was being formed in utter seclusion!  You saw me before I was born and scheduled each day of my life before I began to breathe. Every day was recorded in your book!


Jeremiah 30:17 For I will restore health to you and heal you of your wounds. 


Ephesians 3:16 (NLT) that he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, that you may be strengthened with power through his Spirit in the inward man


Psalm 147:3 (NLT) He heals the brokenhearted (soul) and bandages their wounds. 



Unit 1 - A Foundation of Recovery

Establishing A Support System

Dear Lord, I am calling upon You today for Your divine guidance and help. I am in crisis and need a supporting hand to keep me on the right path. My heart is troubled and I need Your infinite wisdom to show me the right path. Thank you for hearing my prayer and for staying by my side.

Thank You for Your guidance and direction. Thank You for picking me up when I was at my lowest. You are an awesome God and it is because of You I choose to live and walk in Your favor.

I commit to lay down my pride and seek help from other wise counselors.  I reject the false belief that I do not really need people in my life. Lead me to those whose words are dependable.  Give them the courage to tell me the truth about myself and let me be receptive to hearing it because You said that faithful are the wounds of a friend. Thank you for emotionally supportive family and friends in my life who will love, support, guide and pray for me during this season of recovery as I seek healing and wholeness. Give me others who have walked this path of restoration and freedom. Help me to listen and receive from them particularly when their words challenge my defects of character. I pray that You will bless them individually for their kindness and also bless their family.

Thank You for pursuing me with Your love and for sending Your Holy Spirit to give me counsel and to help me come to the knowledge of all truth. Give me ears to hear what You have to say. Thank you, Father. I will follow where You lead. I will let your Word transform me to the person You created me to be. Keep me honest. Help me walk in the light of Your presence and follow the path of recovery to new life in You. Thank you for Your promise to go before me to make the crooked places straight and the rough places smooth. I am forever grateful that You care for me. AMEN!

Father in Jesus Name I come to you! The enemy wanted to destroy me through these vile acts of assault but it did not prosper. I thank You that I survived and while I'm dealing with the effects and the aftermath of the violation I pray for strength and peace. 

I ask You to bring people across my path who will help support me in this devastating time. May I come to know that my value and worth in Your eyes has not changed. 

You still have an awesome plan for my life and you can take evil and use it for good. I pray in time You will bring back my laughter, joy and hope and that You would bless me in abundant ways. 

I thank You for strength to reach out and get help. I know you can bring beauty out of ashes and You're more than willing to do it in my life. Move me toward healing and calm my nerves as I walk this healing process.

Scripture References 

Ecclesiastes 4:12 (ESV) And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Proverbs 27:6 (KJV) - Faithful are the wounds of a friend (who corrects out of love and concern).

Isaiah 45:2 - I will go before you and make the rough places smooth...

Isaiah 26:3 (ESV) - You will keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on You... 

1 Peter 5:7 (NLT) - Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.    


Unit 2 - Discovering Hope

Defining Sexual Trauma 

Generational Sexual Trauma 

In the Name of Jesus, Father, I repent because of the sins of my ancestors that opened the door to the enemy of lust, perversion and anger to be passed down to me through my generations. I forgive my ancestors for opening these spiritual doors, and I renounce all demonic entities and forbid them to operate in my life! I renounce spirits of anger, lust and perversion to be cast out at this time that may have entered my life through trauma, pain, abuse, rejection, fear or that entered at any other time. I close every door against these spirit(s) and cancel every legal right they have to operate in my life, in Jesus mighty name. I renounce all spirits of rejection, all inherited rejection, fear of rejection, self rejection, and perceived rejection in the Name of Jesus.

Father, thank You for the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, I renounce self destruction, any assignments of witchcraft, rebellion,  divination, clairvoyance, the occult, every work of Satanism, self-righteousness, pride, idolatry, lust, I break your power in the Name of Jesus on both sides of my family line. I renounce any spirit guides connected to my family, I renounce any doors for spirits to astroproject into my home, into my bedroom. I renounce any pledges made to the powers of darkness in my bloodline in the Name of Jesus, I break your power. At the Name of Jesus every knee will bow whether in heaven or on earth.

In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, I command incest and rape spirits in my family line to leave me now. I command the enemy to loose my children, grandchildren and my children's children from rape and incest spirits in my family line, in the name of the Lord, Jesus Christ. I ask you to restore my soul from the splitting and fragmenting that has taken place through sexual abuse. Every ruling spirit that is operating to bring my family under a curse, I command them to leave now. In the name of Jesus, I cut off all of the enemy’s plans to cause incest in my family. My children are a heritage unto the Lord and the enemy will not use them in this manner. I cast out and break these curses in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.

In the Name of Jesus, I sever every spiritual bond, break every covenant that has been made by me or on my behalf, knowingly or unknowingly. I also break all word curses, hexes, vexes and incantations I have spoken over myself or that have been spoken over me. Satan, I declare that you have no hold over me. Jesus is my Lord, and I sever every spiritual tie in the mighty name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, AMEN!

Scripture References

Isaiah 41:8 - I will open rivers in high places, and fountains in the midst of the valleys; I will make the wilderness a pool of water and dry land springs of water.

Psalm 124:7 (NIV) I have escaped like a bird from the fowler’s snare; the snare has been broken, and I have escaped. 

Prayer for Healing from Sexual Trauma

Heavenly Father, make Your presence known to me each and every single day as the God who is near to the brokenhearted and who saves those crushed in spirit. In Your name I speak healing and restoration to every wound that was inflicted upon my life. Thank You for Your promise to heal and bind. Holy Spirit, expose the lies of the enemy that have entered my mind because of sexual victimization upon me against my will. You have seen every wrong that’s been done to me, every person that has hurt me and every tear I’ve shed. God, You are a God of justice and You will repay, vengeance belongs to You. I trust You to settle and solve my case.

I pray that the perpetrator might be brought to repentance. Let (person’s name) be unable to sleep; awaken (person’s name) with the painful reality of what they’ve done and judge them accordingly. Jesus bring me to an encounter with Your Word. Reveal Your truth to me and let every lie be broken and my mindset come into alignment with Your Word. Wash me in Your Word. I declare Your Word is truth and I stand in agreement with Your Word that says only goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life.

Father, I’m thankful that I’m Your child, an heir of God and co-heir with Jesus Christ. I trust You to be my healer in every area of my life. You are Jehovah Rapha, the God who heals me. You give me beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for sorrows and the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness. You are mighty to save, mighty to heal , mighty to deliver. Restore everything to perfect order. Work all things together for my good and for Your glory. You have not given me a spirit of slavery to fall back into fear but I have received the Spirit of adoption as a daughter, by whom I can cry, Abba Father! Reveal Your unfailing and everlasting love that conquers all fear. I casts out all fear from my soul. Let Your love rain down upon me bringing healing to my mind, emotions, will and spirit, even to my body. Overwhelm me with Your healing power. Overwhelm me with Your loving Presence.

Lord, I want to join You in the process of recovery and I ask You to make my thoughts clear and to lead me to accurately separate fact from fiction in my life. I take authority over the enemy and close every spiritual door to the enemy's access to my well being and succeeding generations. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is Your steadfast love toward me; as far as the east is from the west, so far You remove my transgressions from me. You have purchased me for a price that is through the blood of Your Son, Jesus. I declare freedom from every burden of fear, anxiety, depression, guilt, shame and anger, by the power of the blood of Christ! I speak love, peace, freedom, wholeness, joy and thanksgiving in Jesus name, I pray. Amen!

​Scripture References

Psalm 51:6 (TLB) You deserve honesty from the heart (soul) ; yes, utter sincerity and truthfulness. Oh, give me this wisdom.

Daniel 2:22 - He reveals deep and secret things. He knows what is in the darkness. And light dwells with Him. 


Exodus 15:26 -  I am the God that heals you. I, the Lord, am your healer. 

Breaking Soul Ties (Consensual Sex)

Father God, in Jesus' name, I humbly ask you to forgive me and cleanse me of the sexual sin of _____________. I acknowledge it as sin and ask you to help me forsake in completely. I thank you for your forgiveness, in Jesus' name. "Lord God, I come before your throne of grace boldly, and covered in the shed blood of your Son. In Jesus' mighty name, I ask you to cut any and all ungodly soul ties between myself and anyone else [say NAME or NAMES if appropriate and remembered] created by sexual acts or any other relationship, known or unknown, remembered or forgotten.

Please Father, take the sword of the Holy Spirit and separate my soul from the soul of anyone with whom I have had ungodly sexual contact. In Jesus' name, I ask You to cleanse those ties by the blood of Jesus of any possible access through which the enemy can trouble me or my family. By the authority of the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, I break the power of any and all covenants, contracts, dedications or commissions made over me [or my children, if any]. In the name of Jesus Christ, my Lord, I now command any and all demons which may have come into me by ungodly soul ties or any other sin to leave me at once, never to return. I bind you all together as one, and I weaken you with the Blood of Calvary. I command you to go where the Lord Jesus Christ tells you to go by the voice of His Holy Spirit.

"Abba Father, in Jesus' mighty name, I ask you to shut any doorways of demonic access opened into my life by these ungodly soul ties or any other sort of sexual sins that I freely participated in, and I ask you to seal those doorways forever with the Blood of the Lamb, shed on the cross of Calvary. I thank you for doing this, in Jesus' name, Amen."

Scripture References

Genesis 2:24 24 (ESV) Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

1 Corinthians 6:15-20 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! Or do you not know that he who is joined[d] to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

Breaking Soul Ties From Sexual Trauma (Without Consent)

Father, in the name of Jesus, you gave me the gift of the Holy Spirit to help me clean house. I acknowledge the sexual sin of (rape/incest/molestation) committed against me by (person's name) that was not Your will nor Your plan for my life. Father, I ask You to break all ungodly ties that have been established between myself and (person's name). The enemy wanted to destroy me. But God You are greater! Lord – be my door, be my gate. I let the evil out and the good in. I am called and chosen by the King of Kings. What the enemy has tried to steal will be restored one hundred times over.

Holy Spirit, I need your help in bringing the truth to light. I ask You Father, to remove from me all influences of (person's name) and draw back to myself every part which has been wrongfully tied in bondage to (person's name). You are my God and there is no other. Cleanse me from all defilement and guilt received through the violation. Lock any and all spiritual doors that have been open through the abuse and traumatic events. Heal and restore me from all soul wounds from the past.

Lord, cancel all unhealthy and ungodly agreements. Let those words be turned into dust. Let Your Word prevail in my heart, my mind, and my spirit. I choose to honor this body that you have come to live in. I belong to You and I will fulfill your plans for me. I declare I have been set free by the blood of the Lamb and the Word of my testimony. For who the Son sets free, is free indeed! Amen!

Scripture References

Proverbs 15:26 The thoughts of the wicked are an abomination to the Lord

Psalm 11:5 The Lord tests the righteous, but his soul hates the wicked and the one who loves violence.

Genesis 34:2-3 And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, the prince of the land, saw her, he seized her and lay with her and humiliated her. And his soul was drawn to Dinah the daughter of Jacob. 

Unit 3 - Tell Yourself the Truth

Identifying False Beliefs 

Renewing My Mind


Father, in the Name of Jesus, I pray for Your protection on my mind. Help me to identify the lies of the enemy and capture every thought that contradicts the Word of God. Shield me from the lies of the enemy. Help me to clearly discern between Your voice and any other, and show me how to take every thought captive as You have instructed me to do. May I thirst for Your Word and hunger for Your truth so that I can recognize wrong thinking. Reveal to me the stronghold and false beliefs I believe about myself, about any and all sexual offenses I've experienced and any distortions about You so that I can tear them down with Your Word.


Give me strength to resist lying thoughts. Remind me that I have the mind of Christ. Where the enemy's lies have already invaded my thoughts, I push them back by inviting the power of the Holy Spirit to cleanse my mind . Lord, You have given me authority over all the power of the enemy. By that authority given to me in Jesus Christ, I command all lying spirits to leave my mind. I proclaim that God has given me a sound mind. I will not entertain confusion but live in clarity and peace.


I ask You to heal me from bound and blocked memories that have impacted me by the sexual offenses that I have gone through and I ask You to deliver me from any and all spiritual bondage that came in through it. I ask You Father to heal my damaged emotions. I cast out spirits of guilt, condemnation and accusations tormenting my mind. Deliver me from self-hatred and shame. Set me free so that I can have my whole spirit, soul and body back. I command self hatred and shame to loose me now and get out of my emotions and I thank You in advance for delivering me from all these feelings.


I will not be tormented with impure, evil, negative, or sinful thoughts but will be transformed by the renewing of my mind that I may prove what is that good, acceptable and perfect will of God. Enable me to be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Help me to be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving let my requests be made known to You and may Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard my heart and mind through Christ Jesus.


Father, Your Word says the mind is the battlefield and this is where the enemy will attack. I agree with Your Word that the enemy is a liar and the father of lies. I submit myself to God, resist him and he has to flee. I have been made right with God by the precious blood of Jesus and I stand firm in my position in Christ. I choose as an act of my will to think on whatever things are true, noble, just, pure, lovely, of good report, having virtue or anything praiseworthy, let me think on these things. AMEN.

Taking Control Of My Mind

Lord, help me to never exchange Your truth for a lie. Where I have accepted a lie as truth, reveal that to me. Help me to clearly discern when it is the enemy who is speaking. I don't want to think futile and foolish thoughts or give place to thoughts that are not glorifying to You. I don't want to walk according to my own thinking. I want to bring every thought captive and control my mind. 

Your Word is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. As I read Your Word, may it reveal any wrong thinking in me. May Your Word be so etched in my mind that I will be able to identify a lie of the enemy the minute I hear it. Spirit of Truth, keep me undeceived. I know You have given me authority over all the power of the enemy and so I command the enemy to get away from my mind. I refuse to listen to lies. 

Thank you Lord, that I have the mind of Christ. I want Your thoughts to be my thoughts. Show me where I have filled my mind with anything that is ungodly. Help me to resist doing that and instead fill my mind with thoughts, words, music and images that are glorifying to You. Help me to think upon what is true, noble, just, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous and praiseworthy. I lay claim to the sound mind that You have given me.  (Courtesy of Stormie Omartian) 


Scripture References


Romans 12:2 (ESV)  Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.


2 Corinthians 10:5 (NLT) We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ. 


John 8:31-32 (ESV)  If you continue in my Word, you are truly my disciples; and you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.  


Romans 1:21 (ESV) For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened.


Isaiah 65:2 (ESV) I spread out my hands all the day to a rebellious people, who walk in a way that is not good, following their own devices.


Hebrews 4:12 (ESV) For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it pierces even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow. It judges the thoughts and intentions of the heart.


Luke 10:19 (ESV) Behold, I have given you authority to tread on snakes and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy. Nothing will harm you.


1 Corinthians 2:16 (ESV) "For who has understood the mind of the Lord so as to instruct him?” But we have the mind of Christ.

Philippians 4:8 (ESV) Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

2 Timothy 1:7 (ESV) God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. 


Victim Mentality


Heavenly Father, Thank You for Your Word. I ask forgiveness for the times I have rejected Your Word in favor of my own self-pity. Help me to reject my stinking thinking and acknowledge that Your Word is truth.


Please comfort me as I seek to overcome my victim mentality by the renewing of my mind. I surrender to the truth of Your Word. I ask that You work everything together for my good and Your glory. Thank You for Your unfailing love and care for me. AMEN!


Scripture References 


Psalm 10:14 But You, God, see the trouble of the afflicted; you consider their grief and take it in hand. The victims commit themselves to You; You are the helper of the fatherless.  



Self Image


Father, in the Name of Jesus, thank You for my identity in You. Help me to understand my worth and value through Your eyes and by Your standards. May I come to recognize the unique qualities You have placed in me and be able to appreciate them. Enable me to see myself the way You see me. Quiet the voices that tell me otherwise and give me ears to hear Your voice telling me that it will not be my perfection that gets me through life successfully, it will be by Your Holy Spirit.


Reveal to me that I am the image and glory of God and I am complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power. Give me the peace and security of knowing that I am accepted and not rejected by You. Free me from the self-focus and self-consciousness that can imprison my soul. Help me to see who You really are so I will know who I am. May my true self-image be the image of Christ stamped upon my soul. AMEN!


Scripture References


2 Corinthians 5:21 - For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.


Genesis 1:27 (ESV) So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.




Unit 4 - Out of the Darkness into the Light 

Responsibility, Betrayal and Denial 


Heavenly Father, I know from experience that my soul deceives me. Forgive me for the ways I’ve sought to escape the reality of the abuse through various forms of denial such as: avoidance or comparing myself to others and thinking their problem is greater than mine therefore I don't need help. Denial keeps me in slavery because I am lying to myself. 

I invite You to reveal to me the truth about the impact of past sexual trauma on my present life. I ask You to fill me with strength and courage to acknowledge and deal with what You reveal to me. Expose where my thinking and perceiving have become twisted and where my ways and Your ways differ. I need Your power and wisdom to help me make changes according to what You show me.

I desire the new life of healing and hope that You promise when I live in truth. Thank You for Your unfailing love and care for me. AMEN!

Scripture References

Galatians 6:7-8 (ESV) Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. 8 For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.

Jeremiah 6:14-16 (TLB) You can't heal a wound by saying it's not there. 


Father, in the name of Jesus, thank you for always being faithful to me. I can always count on you to love me completely and unconditionally. Thank you for being perfectly trustworthy. I can always rely on you to do what's best for me and help me with whatever I need. Please help me remember that people may betray but you are here for me and will never betray me.

You know all of the painful thoughts and feelings I'm dealing with after being betrayed by (person's name). It hurts so much to have someone I thought I could trust do this to me. I need a miracle to find peace after what I've been through. Please give me that peace so I can think about the betrayal from your perspective and control my emotions rather than having them control me.

I know you agree that betrayal is wrong and are just as upset as I am about what has happened to me. But I also know that you want me to forgive (person's name). Honestly, I don't want to forgive, but I don't want to hurt myself more by holding onto bitterness or pursuing revenge. Help me to realize that people will be people, and that fallen people, even those I trust, will sometimes hurt me. Give me the grace to remember that it’s a fallen world, and that hanging on to my anger and bitterness and resentment will only destroy me, and bring a barrier between me and You. Grant me the grace right now to “let go” of my hurt, and understand that You know what I am feeling, because You were betrayed.

I claim Your Word, "Vengeance is mine, I will repay" and that You, Lord, will have the final balance of justice. I entrust my reputation and what other people think of me or may have been falsely led to believe about me, to You. I thank You that I am in good hands. You are the God of truth. Empower me to forgive by letting go of the offense and trusting you to bring justice to the situation in the right ways and at the right times. Please free me from the burden of holding onto a grudge and help me move on with my life. Amen!

Scripture References

Psalm 55:12-14 (ESV) For it is not an enemy who taunts me -- then I could bear it; it is not an adversary who deals insolently with me -- then I could hide from him. But it is you, a man, my equal, my companion, my familiar friend. We used to take sweet counsel together; within God's house, we walked in the throng.

1 Peter 3:9 Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing”

Romans 12:19 (ESV) Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.”

1 Peter 2:23 23 When Jesus was reviled, he did not revile in return; when he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him(God) who judges justly.

Unit 5 - The Family in the Storm

Rules & Roles Family of Origin 


Father, I adore you and give you thanks for creating me to be just who I am. My genes, my life conditions, my space in life and time. You created me to enjoy the fullness of life, Your life in me. I believe that You desire to make my family whole. Heal us in all the ways we need healing. Take away my built-in defenses. Remove all the barriers that prevent healing and accepting fully Your love for me and my family members. I look forward to the time in which Your work will be completed and I believe that I will be an instrument of that healing for my entire family. Jesus, I ask for the grace I need to forgive all who have ever hurt me.

I ask to be representative of my family in receiving grace to pray for all who have hurt any members of my family, individually or collectively. I ask forgiveness from all whom we have hurt. Heal us of all experiences that have made us feel guilty and ashamed, that have cause us to reject ourselves and to reject one another. Heal me of ridicule and of any incidents in my life or in the lives of my family members that have made us feel unworthy or inferior. You know the needs of every family member. Father God, I pray salvation for family members who have not accepted Your Son, Jesus Christ.  Send people across their path as a witness of Your love and forgiveness. 

Surround me with Your light, Jesus, and penetrate the very depths of my being with that light. Let there remain no areas of darkness in me or in my family members, but transform our whole being with the healing light of Your love. Open me completely to receive Your love, Jesus. Thank You for being our family healer and my personal healer.

Scripture References

Psalm 27:10 When my father and mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up. 

Isaiah 49: 15 (NLT) Never! Can a mother forget her nursing child? Can she feel no love for the child she has borne? But even if that were possible, I would not forget you! See, I have written your name on the palms of my hands.  

Matthew 10:36 (NLT) Your enemies will be right in your own household. 

Mark 13:12 Brothers will turn against their own brothers and give them to be killed. Fathers will turn against their own children and give them to be killed. Children will fight against their own parents and find ways for their parents to be killed."

Unit 6 - Letting Go of Shame and Guilt 

Confronting Toxic Shame/Guilt 


Lord, You are my Redeemer. You have redeemed my soul from the pit of hell. Thank You for Your Word that says because I have trusted in You, I will not be condemned. I will never have to live in guilt. So I ask You today to set me free from any guilt I feel about things that have happened in the past. Help me to forgive myself for my own failures. They are burdens too heavy for me to carry. Thank You that You redeem all things.

Give me wisdom about the things I "approve of" or "go along with" in life. If I have compromised Your laws in any way, show me so I can make things right. Reveal all my sins to me so I can confess them before You. Where I have feelings of guilt because of something I blame myself for, something I wish I could have done or not done, help me to release those feelings into Your hands so that I can be free from the burden of them. Take away any weight of guilt from my life. I want to live my life completely free of condemnation.

Create in me a clean heart and deliver me from all guilt and condemnation in my life. I know that You have made a way for me to be free from condemnation and guilt through confession and repentance. I want to always have a pure heart toward You. If I have already confessed and repented of things I feel guilty about, I recognize this condemnation comes from the enemy of my soul who wants to put that crushing burden on me. Thank You Lord, that You have set me free from that burden and I can live confident in Your love for me. AMEN.

Scripture References

Romans 8:1 (NCV) So now, those who are in Christ Jesus are not judged guilty (condemnation). 


Father, thank You that You promised to deliver me from every evil work and preserve me for Your heavenly kingdom. I know that I do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, spiritual hosts of wickedness in heavenly places. Thank You that You have put all these enemies under Your feet. I call upon You, Lord, and ask that You would deliver me from the painful emotion of shame where others have sexually abused and mistreated me. Deliver me and set me free where I have opened the door for the enemy with my own desires and sinful choices. Your sacrifice on the cross set me free from everything that binds me or would separate me from you. Holy Spirit, you know the secrets of my heart.

Examine my soul and search me, expose all areas in my life that are not pleasing to You. Wash me in Your Word that I may be white as snow and I humbly ask You to enable me by Your grace make the changes I need to obtain emotional healing. Thank You for redeeming my life from destruction and crowning me with loving kindness and tender mercies, who gives me good things so that my youth is renewed like the eagle.

Where the enemy's lies have invaded my thoughts, I push them back by inviting the power of the Holy Spirit to cleanse my mind. I stand against all tormenting, evil, negative or sinful thoughts so that I can be transformed by the renewing of my mind that I may prove what is that good, acceptable and the perfect will of God. I cast down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ. I have been redeemed by the blood of the Lamb.

I know that though I walk in the flesh (body) I do not war according to the flesh (body) because the weapons of my warfare are not carnal (earthly) but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds. In Jesus name, I pray that every stronghold erected in my mind by the enemy will be brought down to nothing. Make darkness light before me and the crooked places straight. Your Word says, You have begun a good work in me and You will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ. Give me patience not to give up and the strength to stand strong in Your Word. In Jesus Name, AMEN.

Scripture References

Isaiah 61:7 (NIV)  Instead of their shame my people will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace they will rejoice in their inheritance; and so they will inherit a double portion in their land, and everlasting joy will be theirs.

Isaiah 54:4 - Do not fear, for you will not be ashamed; Neither be disgraced, for you will not be put to shame; For you will forget the shame of your youth...

Unit  7 - Feeling the Anger and Hurt 

Lord, give me the ability to be slow to anger. Take away anything in me that refuses to let go of the anger and hurt over things that have happened to me. Enable me to forsake all anger in my life and not give place to it for even a moment. Help me instead to quickly overlook the things that make me upset and release all my anger to You. I don't want anger in me to delay my wholeness and keep me from the destiny You have for me. Help me to let it go and forgive quickly so that I don't give place to anger in my soul. May the fruit of Your Spirit, love, peace, patience and joy manifest in me at all times.

Lord, help me to glorify You by overlooking all offenses against me. Give me the patience I need to not react. Give me the discretion I need to be able to calmly choose the way of peace and not anger as a way to respond. Keep me from destroying my life or shutting off all You have for me by showing anger and making bad choices because of it. Keep me from any kind of emotional outburst or reactions to things that are inspired by my flesh.

Thank You for the Holy Spirit as my wise and wonderful counselor. Thank You for helping me work out my salvation with fear and trembling for it is You who works in me to will and to act according to Your good purpose. In the name of Jesus, I choose to forgive those who have wronged me. I choose to live a life of forgiveness because You have forgiven me. With the help of the Holy Spirit I get rid of all resentments, bitterness, rage, anger, brawling, slander along with every form of malice. I desire to be kind and passionate to others, forgiving them, just as in Christ, You forgave me.

Lord Jesus, Your word says that Your anointing destroys all yokes of bondage so I ask You now to cause Your anointing to break and destroy any yokes and strongholds of prideful anger, self-centeredness, hate, rage, bitterness, resentment, strife, contention, taking offense, giving offense, misplaced hostility, indifference and all forms of anger along with all their works, roots, fruits, tentacles and links that are in my life. Expose all anger, bitterness and unforgiveness that I've harbored in my heart towards You, towards myself and towards others. Help me not to retaliate with angry words that I will ultimately regret and that will grieve the Holy Spirit.

Thank You, Father that You watch over Your Word to perform it and that whom the Son has set free, is free indeed. I declare that I have overcome anger, resentment and bitterness by the Blood of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the word of my testimony. AMEN.

A Prayer To Release My Anger 

Lord, Jesus, thank You for caring about how much my heart has been hurt. You know the pain I have felt because of  ( list every offense ). Right now I release all that pain into Your hands. And as an act of my will, I choose to forgive ( name ). Right now, I move ( name ) off of my emotional hook onto Your hook. I trust that in Your time and in Your way You will deal with ( name ) as You  see fit.  And Lord, thank You for giving me Your power to release my anger to You so that I can be set free.  In Your holy name I pray, Amen! 

Scripture References

Ephesians 4:26 - When you are angry, do not sin, and be sure to stop being angry before the end of the day. Do not give the devil a way to defeat you

Unit 8 - Healing Loneliness and Fear 


Father, in the Name of Jesus, You are my light and my salvation. You are the strength of my life. Of whom, then shall I be afraid? Even though an entire army may surround me and go to war against me, my heart will not fear. I will be strong and of good courage, for I know that You are with me wherever I go. Free me from all ungodly fear, for I know that fear is never of You. Guard my heart and mind from the spirit of fear. Take my fears and replace it with Your perfect love. If I have any thoughts in my mind that are fueled by fear, reveal them to me so I can confess it before You. I ask You in the name of Jesus to set me free from spirits of fear and torment that attack me because of the shock and trauma of rape and incest.

If I have gotten my mind off of You and on my circumstances, help me to reverse that process so that my mind is off my circumstances and on You. Show me where I allow fear to take root and help me to put a stop to it. Take away any fear of rejection and all fear of man within me and replace it with the fear (reverence) of the Lord. Your Word says that,"You will put fear in the hearts of the people and You will not turn away from doing them good." I pray You would do that for me. I speak now the strength of God over my life. You strengthen me in my inner man by the power of God. I renounce all assignments of torment, fear, mental anguish, dread, ruin, night monsters and devastation, I break your power in the Name of Jesus!

I know that You have not given me a spirit of fear, so I reject that and instead claim your power, love, and the sound mind You have for me. Oh, how great is Your goodness, which You have laid up for those who fear You. Because I have received a kingdom which cannot be shaken, may I have grace by which to serve You acceptably with reverence and godly fear all the days of my life. Thank You that the fear (reverence) of the Lord leads to life, and "He who has it will abide in satisfaction; he will not be visited with evil." Help me to grow in fear and reverence of You so that I may please You and escape the plans of evil for my life. Thank You that those who fear You will never lack any good thing. AMEN.

Scripture References

2 Timothy 1:7 - For God has not given us a spirit of fear; but of power, love, and a sound mind.

Romans 8:15 (NIV) - The Spirit I received does not make me a slave, so that I live in fear again. Rather the Spirit I received brought about my  adoption to sonship (daughter) And by Him (Holy Spirit) I cry "Abba Father" 


Lord, You said that You will never reject me or cast me away from Your Presence. Thank You that You always remember me, I am never forgotten by You. You knew me before I was born. Before I ever knew of You, You thought of me. Help me to think of You always too. May my thoughts of Your love set me free from the pain of loneliness. Help me to think of loneliness as a reminder that I need to draw closer to You.

I invite Your presence to invade my life in a fresh, new way. Help me to sense Your Presence in greater power and depth than I have ever been able to before. Overflow me with Your love, peace, and joy and crowd out anything in me that is not Your will for my life. Take away all feelings of separation, rejection or lack of connection to others and give me a greater sense of being connected to You.

Gracious Father, I come before You to humbly ask that You comfort and heal me in my moments of loneliness. Be my shelter in the midst of the storm. Walk beside me every step of the way and I ask You to touch that emptiness and fill me with Your love. Lord You are the One that binds up the broken-hearted and nurtures those that are alone and afraid. I know that Your grace is sufficient, even in this deep loneliness that I am facing. Give me grace to face the future with You at my side. 

Lord, help me to be content with where I am, knowing that You will not leave me there forever. Help me to never have jealousy or envy because of the love or companionship that someone else has or enjoys. Help me to keep my eyes on You and not on what others do or don't do for me. Thank You for restoring my soul and for Your promise to never leave me or forsake me.

Scripture References

Matthew 28:20 (NCV) I will be with you always, even until the end of the age. 

Hebrews 13:5-6I will never leave you or forsake you.

Deuteronomy 31:6 (NLT) So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the LORD your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you. 

Romans 8:38-39 - For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. 

Psalm 23:3 He restores my soul. 

Unit 9 - Beginning to Trust Again 

Lord, I ask You to strengthen my heart for the difficult times that I’m going through. I want to be in Your perfect will Lord and I pray that Your will be done in every area of my life. I long to have Your assurance that this is the way to walk, but at times Your will seems to be hidden. Strengthen me so that I will not give up. You said to come to you with all my burdens, You said that you will carry them. You said You are a rock, a shield, a fortress. I need a rock right now. I need a fortress to run into right now. I need you!

Jesus, thank You for coming to heal the brokenhearted. I will meditate on Your Word for it life to those who find them and health to one’s whole body. Help me to focus my heart on You and not on the giants around me. I know that all these worries are keeping me from trusting You. Like Peter, instead of looking toward your face, I am looking around at the waves encircling me. Forgive me for doubting and not living a life of trust. I believe, but please help my unbelief! I know that when I worry, I am believing a lie that says that I can control what happens in my life. Forgive me for trying to control something I never really had control of. Help me to trust in your word and not the lies.

Father God, You sent your Son to carry my greatest burden at the cross. I know that You can handle all that troubles me today. There is nothing too great for You, the earth is your footstool and the wind and rain come and go at your command. Free me of this worry today. Help me to trust the same grace that saved me at the cross to save me from all that weighs me down.

I know that You have a perfect plan for my life. Help me to walk by faith and not by sight. I want to trust in your plan and Your love for me. I want to face the unknown future confident that You have it under control. Grant me the grace I need. Thank You for Jesus and that because of him I can come to you in confidence. You accept me as I am, worries and all. I give them all to you now, in Jesus’s name, Amen.

Scripture References 

Proverbs 3:5-6 (ESV) Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

Proverbs 16:3 (ESV) Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.

Unit 10 - The Process of Forgiveness

Father, in the Name of Jesus, help me to be a forgiving person. Show me where I am not. Expose the hidden and secret places of my soul so I won't be locked up in unforgiveness and jeopardize my future. If I have any unresolved anger, bitterness, resentment or unforgiveness that I am not recognizing, reveal it to me and I will confess it to You as sin. Help me to forgive everyone who has caused me pain. Make me to understand the depth of Your forgiveness toward me so that I won't hold back forgiveness from others. I realize that my forgiving someones doesn't make them right, it makes me free. I also realize that You are the only one who knows the whole story, and You will see justice done.

Help me to forgive myself for my failures and the times I have failed. And if I have blamed You for things that have happened in my life, show me so I can confess it before You. Enable me to love my enemies as You have commanded in Your Word. Teach me to bless those who curse me and persecute me. Remind me to pray for those who hurt or offend me so that my heart will be soft toward them. I don't want to become hard and bitter because of unforgiveness. Make me a person who is quick to forgive.

Lord, show me if I have any unforgiveness toward my mother or father for anything they said, did or did not do. I don't want to shorten my life by not honoring them and breaking this great commandment. And where there is distance between me and any other family member because of unforgiveness, I pray You would break down that wall. Help me to forgive every time I need to do so. Where I can be an instrument of reconciliation between other family members who have broken or strained relationships, enable me to do that.

I don't want anything to come between You and me, Lord, and I don't want my prayers to be hindered because I have entertained sin in my heart. I choose this day to forgive everyone and everything, and walk free from the death that unforgiveness brings. AMEN!

Scripture References

Colossians 3:13 (NCV) If someone does wrong to you, forgive that person because the Lord forgave you.

Unit 11 - Confronting the Perpetrator 

Wisdom & Discernment 

Lord, thank You for Your great love for me and that You know my need and the paths that I will take in the future. Help me I pray to discern what my future needs are and not to confuse them with my own fleshly desires or the vanities of my heart. Give me true discernment. I pray Lord my heart is open to Your leading and guidance – and my desire is that I do only those things that are right in Your sight. I pray that I may be quiet to listen to Your voice and slow to assume that I know Your will when it is my own fleshly thinking. Give me true discernment I pray to KNOW your will as well as strength, grace and love when it comes to addressing evil. 

Lord, in the dark times of my life I turn to You.  You know every decision I need to make and every challenge I face.  I know that You are always there to light up my path.  Help me to remember that because I trust in You, I don't ever have to walk through troubling situations alone.  Take away all fear of my problems and give me a greater sense of Your presence walking me through them.  Help me to hear Your voice instructing me and give me the strength and determination to obey Your decisions. Help me not to be overcome by evil but to overcome evil with good.

Give me a heart of discernment to know when You are using someone to speak instruction into my heart and my circumstances, and give me the strength and courage to follow through with that advice, even when it’s hard. Fill me with peace in knowing that even if I take a wrong turn, Your purpose will prevail.  

Please forgive me for the times I try to figure this life out on my own.  I need Your Holy Spirit to give me strength, wisdom and direction.  Help me make wise choices.  Give me insight to discern good and evil and choose according to Your will. I desire Your truth, wherein great wisdom can be found.  

Scripture References

Hebrews 4:12 (ESV) For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.  And no creature is hidden from his sight.

James 1:5 (ESV)  If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him

Unit 12 - Intimacy in Relationships 

Relationships With Others

Father, I praise You that I am fearfully and wonderfully made in Your image. Forgive me for the times I rebelled against You and sought with unrealistic expectations to meet my deepest needs through others. I am now aware that only You can fulfill my deepest needs. As You have been loving and giving towards me in our relationship, help me to be loving and giving towards others. I trust that you will make all things right as I surrender to Your will. I am forever grateful that you care.

I lift up every one of my relationships to You and ask You to bless them. I pray that each one would be glorifying to You. Help me to choose my friends wisely so I won't be led astray. Give me discernment and strength to separate myself from anyone who is not a good influence. I release all my relationships to You and pray that Your will be done in each one of them. With my difficult relationships, I ask that Your peace would reign in them. Your Word says, "How can two walk together unless they agree?"

Break down any wall or misunderstanding. I pray that You would make my relationships what You want them to be so that You will be glorified. I pray for any relationships with each of my family members. I pray you would bring healing, reconciliation, and restoration where it is needed. Bless our relationships and make it strong. I pray for godly friends, role models, and mentors to come into my life. Send people who will speak the truth in love. I pray especially that there will be people in my life who are trustworthy, kind, loving and faithful. Most of all I pray that they are people of faith who add to my life and I to theirs. May forgiveness and love flow freely between us. Make me to be Your light in all my relationships. AMEN!

Scripture References

Romans 12:18 (NCV)  Do your best to live in peace with everyone. My friends, do not try to punish others when they wrong you, but wait for God to punish them with his anger. It is written: “I will punish those who do wrong; I will repay them,” says the Lord. 

Covenant Relationship (Marriage)

Father in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, I ask you to bring back my soul from the pain of sexual abuse. Lord, set me free to receive love in a sexual way from my spouse. I command all spirits that are causing me to leave my body and not respond to my mate to leave me now.

I cast out spirits of bound and blocked sexual response, spirits of hatred of sex, frigid spirits that entered when I was abused sexually to come out of me now and I take authority over the spirit of blocked pleasure during sex with my spouse. Also, Father restore my soul from deep hurt and mental torment. I command them to leave me now in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. Amen!

Scripture References 

Setting Healthy Boundaries 

Lord, I come to You today and present my life before You, past, present, and future. I want to live for You. I want to live in the safety of Your love. Heal me from those things in my past that impact my current relationships. Forgive me for ignoring those boundaries that bring safety to my life. 

Give me the desire, the courage, and the strength to follow Your principles each day.

I am so thankful that your grace is greater than anything that has wounded me. Teach me how to love You and to love others, so that my relationships are healthy and balanced. Jesus, you are the way, the truth, and the life. I choose to follow you from this day forward. Amen